You Can’t Do that…


Have you ever been told that you couldn’t do or be something? Has anybody looked at you crazy after you told them a dream of yours that meant you would have to do what they think is impossible or unrealistic?

Well I can’t even count how many times this has happened to me. In fact, a part of me believed them that it wasn’t possible or no way it was going to happen for me. I was told by strangers and those close to me that I couldn’t do that or be that.

Most memorable of them was in High School people always said I was not going to amount to anything. I was just going to be a teenage dropout with a kid. People didn’t believe in me because I was out on my own by 16 and struggling to make things happen. I told them my dream of becoming a physician and they would tell me why not just be a nurse or something. My own mother has had a hard time supporting me. She most recently told me I should just become a Physician Assistant because now with 2 boys I need to give up my dreams of becoming a doctor because it was too much of a sacrifice. They would be teens by the time I was finished with residency.

I have had advisors do the same to me always suggesting I look at other options… But no matter how much I tried I could never come up with something that I felt I could be happy doing.

I remember breaking down in my advisors office after he suggested I look for another path. He ended up doing a prayer for me and I left. I went to the library and found the most remote corner of the library and sat there and cried until I felt better and decided that I WAS NOT GOING TO GIVE UP.

Its never been my personality to give up on something I really want. I figured I have to try. I have proved people time and again they were wrong about what I could and couldn’t do. I told myself this is no different.

I hope that if you too have been told that you couldn’t be or do something that you brush them off and use that as motivation to prove them wrong. You can be and do what ever you set your mind to.

I recite these quotes in my head every time I am feeling down or  thinking maybe they are right, maybe they will help you:

“It’s never to late to be who you might have been” – George Eliot

“Where there is a will, there is a way…”

“The only place where your dream becomes impossible is in your own thinking.” – Robert Schuller



3 thoughts on “You Can’t Do that…

  1. caribmd2be says:

    Powerful. When I was in the medical school application process, I had a LOT of people (i.e., family, friends, so-called mentors, etc.) tell me that I couldn’t get into medical school. Some said that I was too old. Others said that my MCAT wasn’t high enough. A few said that because I’m a black male, I would face racism on the interview trail. It was always something. However, I have always placed my faith in God and His plan for me and my life. I have always understood that my timing isn’t His timing but if I stay the course, remain encouraged, and keep pushing, I would get to what I wanted. A quote that I keep in mind (since starting medical school) from Eleanor Roosevelt is:

    ‘You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’

    Thank you for sharing. 🙂

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